Building Self Esteem Within Adhd
When I’m working with clients who have ADD/ADHD, as well as myself, I find that focusing my efforts on building self esteem within ADHD causes dramatic positive changes. Growing up and living with the traits of ADHD, I’ve logged an enormous amount of problems created by my distractions, my impulsive nature, and my tendency to go full throttle on different things. Similarly, my clients and entrepreneur friends have similar stories in their own lives. When it comes to building self esteem within ADHD, there are some things that we need to understand first.
Let’s understand that people with ADHD are not bad people, nuisances, insensitive, morally broken; nothing is ‘wrong’ with them at all. The ADD Brain is a complex system that functions non-linearly and contrary to many of the structured institutions that have been established as normal. Let me remind you that just because alot of people are doing something, doesn’t mean that it is right. Building self esteem within ADHD can be challenging due to several variables, most importantly the adrenergic receptors in the brain, the digestive system, the programming inside their own minds, and the self-image the person has of themselves.
As we all know, the imagination and creativity that is inherent with the ADD Brain; is totally awesome. Both positively and negatively. We can create and destroy almost with a single thought. (more on that later) The most important thing that I’ve noticed with building self esteem within ADHD is purposefully pointing to the positive evidence in the my life and the clients life that concretely shows that they are good, they can achieve, that other people’s experiences & thinking created their beliefs, and my favorite; that they have an enormous gift inside them.
Here are several particular steps to building self esteem within ADHD
1. Recognize the negative thoughts in your mind – become conscious of them – cancel them .
2. Handle those thoughts and beliefs and Instill with new empowering ones
3. Focus your efforts on creating evidence for yourself – proving new empowering thoughts to be true
4. Train your mind, your actions, and your words to continue until your reality is changed.
I get goosebumps when I see that glimmer of Hope come back into their eyes, their parents eyes; my own eyes. Building self esteem within ADHD is always a work in progress. The ADD Brain is like a Thoroughbred horse; it moves so fast from one thing to another, unless the reins of the Thoroughbred are under control. Showing someone that they innately know how to use the reins, and then training them on how to be consistent at it creates lasting changes in their lives. Every now and then, as we all know, you have to let go of the reins and let our minds go for a full on gallop. I believe this is where the creativity, curiosity, and boundless energy is hidden. In that space where I know I can control my thoughts to bring them back in, but I consciously let it go just a bit further to challenge the limitations that are there.
In the beginning, the left side of the ADD Brain – the logical side – is going to fight these new thought patterns. But, I promise you that the brain only knows what you tell it to be true. And what is true for you, is true for you.
Building self esteem within ADHD has provided awesome changes not only in my own life, but also my clients lives. It does take daily work, responsibility, and the ability to be honest with yourself. The power within the ADD Brain is unmatched, there fore, so is the potential for great changes to occur. Go out there and create a new you.
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author: eric etka
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