What’s your relationship with your Energy?
Most people accept the notion that as we age we have less energy. Have you ever seen a younger person running around tirelessly and said to someone else, “ gosh, it would be great to have that kind of energy again, huh?” On the other hand, there are stories of elders that complete triathlons; while others are wasting away in nursing homes. This discussion on energy is going to open your mind to a new paradigm with regards to your energy and potential as a human being.
Shawn Phillips introduced me to a concept that wasn’t altogether new to me, but the way he presented it has been making think for months. In a podcast-turned-book Full Strength at 40, he brought up the idea of creating a relationship with food. While in another chapter he discussed managing our energy better. It occurred to me that there is a combination of the two that can be addressed and focused upon. Why don’t we improve our relationship with our Energy?
Let’s face it. Everything is energy. No argument there. By adding the word relationship to the concept of energy, we can incorporate new ideas of how we improve our relationships with other humans. Typically that’s how our brains think of relationships, correct? Now this makes things easier.
Imagine these paradigms of a relationship with Energy:
- concept of ‘courting’ your own energy
- falling in love with your own energy
- building trust in your relationship
- longer lasting friendships
- making deposit into your Emotional Bank Account (Stephen Covey)
Are you following my line of thinking here? Of course you are, because those phrases make sense to you. Now put the idea of your own Energy into the understanding that you can cultivate and build it every moment of the idea; like your relationships.
Courting your own energy would be akin to being excited to feel your own energy improve, looking for ways to feel sexy energy again, presenting yourself in the most attractive way for your energy, and basically doing anything within your power to have your energy as high, exciting, and invigorating as possible.
Falling in love with your energy involves feeling really connected to your energy. At this level, everything that is going inside you is something you are fully engaged with and passionate about. Envision the idea that ‘ you are what you eat ‘ , but really it’s about all your sense. What am I digesting? What am I touching me or on my skin? What sounds are being allowed into my ears – music, movies, conversations, and other audio bytes? What smells, aromas, type of air are entering my nostrils? Then, of course, the almighty, often overlooked vision information being taken into our brains.
When it comes to building trust with your energy, I’m going to say that there will be days when you simply have to keep going and going until you’re drained. Now, at this point, you have to handle things consistently that you will take the necessary measures to replenish and rejuvenate your energy no matter what it takes. This, in essence, will let your body, mind, and soul know that you appreciate it enough and you are trustworthy to replenish, rebuild, and fulfill your energy stores back to 100%. (or as close to that as possible)
It’s well known that longer lasting friendships have a residual power to them. All the things that you have done or have not done in that friendship have created the strength it has presently. The exact same goes for your human energy. If you built a timeline over the last few months or years and took note of all the good things you’ve done to build your energy and health, what would it look like? Would you be embarrassed? Or maybe you could honestly stand tall and proud, stating, “I rocked that out!” Think in your own mind, that if there was a meter measuring that answer, where would the needle point to? This understanding brings us to the nest concept made famous by the late Stephen Covey.
The Emotional Bank Account. The basic idea here is that we want to be putting more deposits into the account than we take out. Until now the discussion has been primarily physical energy, but our emotional energy level is directly affected by everything above. Covey’s concept was focused more on how we treat others. When you turn that concept inward, combined with the paradigm of building your emotional energy relationship; we create a very powerful position. Surrounding yourself with encouraging, loving, supportive people is paramount in your emotional strength. Positive self-talk and affirmations can change your life. Purposefully changing your perspective (on something that is causing you bad stress) can turn the tables on energy levels instantly.
This is an awesome new concept for many. Read this several times. Be honest with where you are. Court your energy. Fall in love with your energy. Purposefully build long lasting friendship with your energy. Create bullet-proof ways that solidify trust with your energy levels. Most importantly, be vigilant and protect your emotional energy.
Remember, we’re working on making progress, not looking for perfection. Namaste.