4 Easy Ways to Help ADHD Parents in Richmond Va

Since the videocast went live last week with RVAreal.tv where I explained everything I could, in one hour, about helping people with ADHD – my inbox has been red hot with teachers and parents asking for guidance on tips for ADHD and ways to handle the ADHD better.

Although the majority of us have been through grade school, we were never taught how to listen or how to communicate effectively. Sad, but true. On top of that we, as humans, typically focus on what’s wrong instead of what’s going right.

So, let’s go through four things that happen to start with the letter “C”. Tuesday September 22nd at Glen Allen Library I am going to show you how you can accomplish all of these and more –  adhd help tips

1. Communication – this isn’t just speaking so you can be heard. What I’m talking about is communicating information to another person in a way that the other person can receive it properly and communicate back to you the correct main information.

2. Capability – learning is a lifelong endeavor. Being a parent is the most important stewardship on the planet. SO why is it that the vast majority of parents have not had any formal training in ‘correct parenting’ that is up with the times?

3. Confidence – being a involved with someone who has ADHD can be downright exhausting. Exhausted and frustrated humans find it hard to be confident. Some people throw in the towel altogether.

4. Courage – finding a way through to the other side means facing uncertainty while pushing through with the ‘capability’ that you do have. I’ve met clients who  figuratively borrow my belief in them to make it through some very hard times. Eventually they begin to believe in themselves and their lives are never the same.

Tuesday September 22nd at Glen Allen Library I am going to show you how you can accomplish all of these and more – REGISTER NOW. adhd help tips

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Can Richmond Improve Schools for ADHD kids?

adhd help tipsI recently created a famous podcast where I unveiled the nuts and bolts of all the issues that we’re dealing with in the ADHD community across the globe. Since I have chosen to live in this city I love, Richmond, then the people of this town have the opportunity to meet me face to face that other folks around the globe don’t.

I’m putting together a new LIVE event that brings to light 12 specific changes we’ve seen in our practice from working with parents, kids, and adults. The ADHD program is all-natural non-medication, but a strength based program geared to help people dampen the negative problems of ADD/ADHD – and enhance the positive aspects of it.

Click the “Register” button to get a seat at the presentation. I’ve summarized the changes below as it regards to kids in school:

  • reduced AD/HD behaviors and symptoms
  • all children were rated by their parents as being at the normal level after training.
  • scores on the BRS completed by parents and teachers showed reductions in AD/HD symptom frequency.
  • more attentive behaviors were perceived during and after training sessions.
  • children started showing more socially meaningful behaviors
  • improvement in assignment completion and exertion of more patience during tasks
  • broad behavioral problems lessened – social, aggressive, and delinquent problems.
  • children had completed more schoolwork, and the improvements remained after the training.
  • increased attentive behavior in class
  • improved quality of schoolwork improved these children’s social status.
  • children had better social status after the training, as rated by their homeroom teachers.
  • increased children’s confidence in doing tasks.
  • their motivation for doing daily tasks improved
  • their expectation for success increased improvement of the cognitive and state-control problems that are commonly associated with AD/HD

“These findings indicate that parents and teachers have perceived a broad range of behavioral improvements as a result of the neurocognitive training.”

“These findings speak to the relationship between underdeveloped psychological abilities, negative behavior patterns, and inadequate academic and social participation at school, and indicate that once the children have received positive support and technical aids, they can achieve dramatic improvements”adhd help tips


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Hot ADHD Debate in Richmond Va

The pressure is building within the ADHD community and society who is on the outside looking in. This blog gives the bullet points of an incredibly insightful and thought-provoking Video Podcast that Dr. Eric Etka did with RVAreal.tv –


  • Has ADHD has been labeled a disorder syndrome, problem creator in society?
  • Can people with ADHD leave a wake of destruction and very exasperated people around them?
  • How many kids have been labeled as problems, nuisance, disturbed, special needs?
  • How many kids have been abused because they have the traits of ADHD (misunderstood)wake-up-productive


1.Increase stress in house and family

2.Can be destructive and careless

3.Getting distracted easily

4.Hard to handle emotional ups and downs

5.Casting blame – not taking responsibility

6.Low self esteem

7.Disturbing classroom or work

8.Can be embarrassing in public

9.Adds to the tension in relationships

10.Follow through is below average


  • Medication can help OR worsen the problem, no one knows which medication will work for each person, so it’s really a game of brain chemical Russian roulette.
  • The internet is filled with anecdotal, living room stories, guesses, and finger-pointing.adhd richmond va


  • Most people are focused on the negative attributes.
  • Wrong Approach with Drugs and Control.
  • Parents, adults and kids – need a tried and true way of understanding, containing and redirecting the enormous brain energy that comes WITH having the traits of an ADHD Brain.


  • Understanding ADD/ADHD
  • Nutrition Strategies
  • Medication Discussion
  • Exercises For Home & School
  • Limit Destructive Behavior
  • Reduce Stress On Your Relationship
  • Connecting With Emotions
  • Focusing On Purpose
  • Awareness Of Patterns
  • Taking Responsibility
  • Overcome Self-Doubt
  • Empower THEMadhd richmond va


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12 Ways Parents Can Help Their Beloved’s ADHD

Over the years I’ve noticed many patterns that have proven the answer to the myriad questions about parenting and ADHD.  There are those who say that bad parenting causes ADHD, but there are also folks who think that it’s hard to be a good parent around someone who has ADHD.adhd for teachers

What if I could clear up both sides and show you how to understand, handle, and enjoy the person with ADHD?

Working with hundreds of people in families of people with ADHD gives me inside knowledge about how different things go when parents are following 12 specific things.  I’ve created an online parenting class to discuss all of them below: – simply click the webinar replay banner below WebinarReplayBanner_GBU1. To begin, they have a through solid research-based understanding of ADD/ADHD.

2. By following a specific regimented individual set of Nutrition Strategies, they have not only tamed the negative symptoms, but also have helped improve the positive traits.

3.  They have read and been instructed on the ups and downs of medications and what they are really doing to the brain by taking prescriptions.

4. Understanding the importance of a home exercise program for both the brain and the body.

5. Finding multiple ways to limit destructive behavior

6. Ferreting out issues that are in the family to reduce further stress on the relationship.

7. Learning the correct healthy way to connect with their emotions.

8. The person with ADHD has gained the capacity to focus on purpose – not just when they are interested in something.

9. Changing a new perspective to become aware of positive and negative patterns

10. Enabling the person with ADHD to be able to take responsibility for their actions – not placing blame on others.

11. Maturing out of low self esteem to overcome doubt in themselves.

12. Viewing the future as something to behold, in order to empower them.

I have helped many people get to this point in their lives. Would you like to obtain the same results? The vast majority of this work can be done online – I’ve created a special class for that. It’s incredibly valuable and Im going to discuss the program on the webinar Wednesday night.WebinarReplayBanner_GBU



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Nutrition Tips – Is Your ADHD Ready for School

This blog post is going to discuss 15 different ways to help ADHD in classroom environment. We’ve discussed before what it’s like for a parent, adult, or child with ADHD to go through school. Teachers have initiative to make sure that each student gets through the program, does well on SOL tests, and has a memorable school experience. When it comes to ADHD tips for school, many teachers and parents are finding many ways to help the ADD Brain. Sign Up For “Nutrition Tips” webinar this week below:register-right-now

We are working to implement brainwave-controlled video games into school systems. In this blog post, I’m going to take adaptations from Dr. Hallowell’s book and add my real life personal and professional experience. Handling ADHD at home is much different than learning ADHD Tips for school; so here is the list of tips for teachers of people of all ages who have the traits of ADD/ADHD:

  • Have the kids with ADHD sit toward the front of the room (though not all together). Even better, have a circular seating arrangement. That way, someone is always looking at each student. It is very hard not to pay attention when someone is looking at
  • Dr. Etka: it is now well known that the ADD brain has ‘hemisphericity’, meaning that basically one side is stronger than the other. we also know that the opposite train focuses to the opposite side. thus, by placing a children on the side of the room that has ‘stronger’ hemisphere, the attention and focus can more easily go to the center of the room.
  • Use touch if it is allowed in your school. I shudder to think that Mrs. Eldredge’s arm is now illegal in many schools in this country. But if you are allowed to, touching a child on the shoulder, say, is a great way to provide encouragement and also bring his mind back into the room and the task at hand.

Dr. Etka: this is a ‘touchy’ subject. adults who can calmly place there hand on a child with ADD will help tremendously, but if the ‘touch’ is a stern grab, hold, or anything that can re-stimulate a childs memory of the typical life of an ADD child who has been reprimanded countless times (you catch my drift) – I love touch personally – as long as it is from a well meaning person who can encourage and support my goals and aspirations.


  • Use eye contact. Your eyes can bring attention back into the room.
  • Use kids’ names. When you hear your name it is almost impossible not to pay attention.

Dr. Etka: the eyes are the light of the soul. Looking into someone’s eyes – you can get a sense of what’s really going on inside. use visual connection as a means of communication to give the child the feeling that they are safe, they are understood, and that you really do want to help them. similarly, saying a child’s name in correct tone helps.

  • Never keep kids in for recess. Exercise is essential for mental focus.
  • Consider starting the day with some stretching exercises.
  • Consider having the kids sit not in chairs but on exercise balls. That provides constant musculoskeletal stimulation, which is good for the brain, and also involves the cerebellum, which is good for focus.
  • Emphasize proper brain care with the kids: eat right, get exercise, get enough sleep, don’t overdose on electronics.

Dr. Etka: totally agree!! people with ADHD need a way to ‘blow off’ their excess energy. nutrition is huge with helping to gain better control on impulsiveness of ADHD, the ball idea started in Europe and is wonderful. Chiropractically, it’s the spinal joints that send signals to the cerebellum to get it’s motor going, which then speaks to the pre-frontal cortex.

  • Introduce new topics in terms of old topics already mastered.  Kids with ADHD overheat easily. They get frustrated quickly when they sense they won’t understand something new. So, for example, when you start fractions explain right away that fractions are simply division written differently, and the kids have already learned division.
  • Break down large topics or tasks into small, manageable bits. For example, a book report might be subdivided into eight steps, or a science project outlined in a dozen doable steps. Once again, this helps the child with ADHD not feel overwhelmed. It is also helpful for all the other kids as well.
  • Notice and appreciate successful moments. Kids with ADHD often go through an entire day getting multiple reprimands or therapies without one single affirmation. Imagine how you’d feel if you went through your day like that.

Dr. Etka: at SeaWorld they train big powerful animals to do the amazing. many of the same principles apply here. taking something that may seem complex and showing the animal they already know each separate step, that actually, when put together create a totally awesome new feat of excellence. ( i do this when my extreme athlete sons get scared to try something ‘never done before’. by looking for the child to do the ‘right’ thing, it completely changes the training/teaching process… and the self esteem rises.. (trust me, a child with ADD can bring you tons of joy, or loads of frustration and pain – your choice)

  • Stay in touch with parents, even if you don’t particularly love them. My best advice to teachers is the same advice I give to parents: make friends with each other.

Dr. Etka: not only can ADHD for teachers be very challenging to understand correctly, but also, a daunting task given the amount of kids in a class nowadays; help is mandatory from parents.

  • Make sure the child has eaten properly before school –
  • Don’t let the child or the parent use ADHD as an excuse. ADHD is not an excuse to get out of taking responsibility, but an explanation that leads to taking responsibility more effectively.
  • During school, talk about when the teacher may let the person with ADHD have a snack in between classes.
  • Don’t fall into the trap of the “moral diagnosis,” blaming the child’s difficulties on bad character. Look deeper than that. ADHD is a neurological trait, not a moral infirmity.
  • Above all else, enjoy these kids. Nothing works better than that—both for the kids and for you.

Dr. Etka: I love Ned. he’s is such a genuine guy. understanding ADHD and having the compassion I have now, I have seen so many parents, adults and kids, begin to thrive while learning how to handle their ADD Brain better.

Adaptations taken from Superparenting for ADD: An Innovative Approach to Raising Your Distracted ChildEdward H. Hallowell, M.D. and Peter Jensen, M.D. Ballantine, 2008



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Drug Free ADHD Solutions for China and USA

The ADHD Society blog bannerA simple and effective case study using neurocognitive training for children with AD/HD has been performed in China. What is most interesting to me during this study is the fact that over 33% of parents in China with children who had been diagnosed with ADHD are against using medication. Just over 25% of them would only use medication if there was no other alternative.

The ADHD Society uses the exact technology with our clients in USA that this entire study was based upon. As in our previous blog – ADHD and Myndplay Helping Emotional Intelligence we discussed using this neurofeedback device in our office and the results.adhd-neurofeedback

Read on to learn more about how neurofeedback training for children is helping kids and China and the USA.


“Two alternative technology-based approaches to addressing symptoms of AD/HD are cognitive training and neurofeedback training. Cognitive training involves the use of purpose-designed computer software to exercise particular psychological abilities (e.g., memory) with the aim of improving them with practice.

These tasks typically include performance feedback, with task difficulty varied according to performance to promote challenge, engagement, and learning. Neurofeedback training involves non-invasive measurement of ongoing brain electrical activity (electroencephalogram [EEG]) via electrodes on the scalp, with the user provided continuous simplified feedback about that activity (e.g., current level of attention shown as a number, a bar graph, or an engaging visual display).

The aim of neurofeedback training is to promote awareness and control of psychological “state” factors that are reliably reflected in the EEG, such as high versus low attention or being relaxed versus tense. Several meta-analyses indicate research support for neurofeedback training as a method to reduce symptoms of AD/HD and improve behavior.”

The ADHD Society believes that the combination of alternative therapies is the future of helping people with ADD/ADHD. There isn’t just one pill that’s going to help everyone. This study does its best to combine both the forms of cognitive training and neurofeedback training to create results that not only help in the classroom, but also, make changes in their home life as well.

The video game used in this study has over 12 different games that challenge the user with respect to impulse control, attention, focus, working memory, physiological control of states of frustration and re-focus. There are many levels to each game from ‘easy’ to incredibly challenging – ‘insane’. We’ve noticed similar results in our practice as does the neurocognitive study in China.


I’ve summarized the findings of the study below:

  • reduced AD/HD behaviors and symptoms
  • all children were rated by their parents as being at the normal level after training.
  • scores on the BRS completed by parents and teachers showed reductions in AD/HD symptom frequency.
  • more attentive behaviors were perceived during and after training sessions.
  • children started showing more socially meaningful behaviors
  • improvement in assignment completion and exertion of more patience during tasks
  • broad behavioral problems lessened – social, aggressive, and delinquent problems.
  • children had completed more schoolwork, and the improvements remained after the training.
  • increased attentive behavior in class
  • improved quality of schoolwork improved these children’s social status.
  • children had better social status after the training, as rated by their homeroom teachers.
  • increased children’s confidence in doing tasks.
  • their motivation for doing daily tasks improved
  • their expectation for success increased improvement of the cognitive and state-control problems that are commonly associated with AD/HD

“These findings indicate that parents and teachers have perceived a broad range of behavioral improvements as a result of the neurocognitive training.”

“These findings speak to the relationship between underdeveloped psychological abilities, negative behavior patterns, and inadequate academic and social participation at school, and indicate that once the children have received positive support and technical aids, they can achieve dramatic improvements”

1.  A Preliminary Multiple Case Report of Neurocognitive Training for Children with AD/HD in China

Neurofeedback studies are being performed as we speak in classrooms across the USA as well.

2.      In-school neurofeedback training for ADHD: sustained improvements from a randomized control trial


3.      Neurofeedback and cognitive attention training for children with attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder in schools


4. Computer-based attention training in the schools for children with attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder: a preliminary trial.


Introducing a non-invasive form of neurofeedback (NFB) that is fun and can be tracked, along with pre and post psychological assessments – seems like a no-brainer. NFB simply is monitoring the brain waves while the subject is performing a task. The task can be directly helpful to improving the impulsiveness, and distraction problems so prevalent with ADHD. Combining the two into a video game that can provide it’s own reports on the subject’s progress; now you have a winning combination.

If that was too complex for you, let’s break it down. Non-drug treatment, using technology that monitors brain waves to control a fun interactive video game, to dampen the negative traits of ADHD, while enhancing the positive traits, which can provide progress reports.

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In the USA, our clinic is the first to bring this technology into the arena of ADHD treatment. The Australian company, NeuroCog, not only, has partnered with us in our mission to re-educate the world on the positive aspects of ADHD, but also is providing the support and video game by which to make this technology accessible to all parents, adults, and children who need help.






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Let’s Talk ADHD and Genetics

The ADHD Society blog bannerDiscussing ADHD and genetics can be a daunting task, given all the technical jargon being used. Researchers are beginning to see a pattern that the hyperactivity symptoms don’t last into adulthood like inattention issues; that can plague an adult with ADD/ADHD. There are also environmental factors that affect the expression of ADHD symptoms. Children do more of what they see than what they hear. Parents who have ADD/ADHD have an important obligation to learn skills to handle their impulsiveness, inattention, distraction, and excess energy.adhd-insta2

Reports continue to be published that show the problematic nature of NOT handling ADD/ADHD in a healthy positive manner. Common to be diagnosed with a plethora of additional disorders:

  1. Anxiety, Depression, Bipolar, Tourette’s, OCD, ODD, Alcoholism, Substance Abuse, Anti-social Behaviour, Learning Disorder’s
  2. Increased likelihood of broken bones, lacerations, burns, poisoning, speeding tickets, car accidents, and jail time
  3. Increased likelihood of repeating a grade in school, dropping out entirely, unemployment, divorce, familial estrangement, and suicide
  4. 50% ADD/ADHD suffer with alcoholism /addiction

In May 2015, a long term study was completed study that “examined the genetic and environmental influences explaining interindividual differences in the developmental course of ADHD symptoms from childhood to adolescence (ie, systematic decreases or increases with age).” http://archpsyc.jamanetwork.com/article.aspx?articleid=2290681#Abstract

From the ages of 8-16, over 8,300 people diagnosed with ADHD from England and Wales were followed and evaluated using specific ADHD monitoring tests and scales by the parents.adhd-insta5

Basically the results were that the hyperactivity measurements went down by 50% from age 8 to 16, while the inattention measurement only decreased slightly. The researchers are proposing that 2 or more genes are responsible for the hyperactivity trait, while the inattention comes from ‘one single powerful gene’. Studies like this will help us better understand why some people have remission of certain baseline symptoms of ADD/ADHD, while others still have certain issues into adulthood.adhd-help

Dr. Etka’s viewpoint: I’m not even sure you can say a gene is more powerful than another, due to the fact that they aren’t even ‘turned on’ unless the cells are in the correct cellular environment for that gene to fully express itself. Read up on Bruce Lipton’s The Biology of Belief is a groundbreaking work in the field of new biology. Author Dr. Bruce H. Lipton is a former medical school professor and research scientist. His experiments, and those of other leading-edge scientists, have examined in great detail the mechanisms by which cells receive and process information. The implications of this research radically change our understanding of life. It shows that genes and DNA do not control our biology; that instead DNA is controlled by signals from outside the cell, including the energetic messages emanating from our positive and negative thoughts. brain-research

Add to the fact that the vast majority of humans can control their thoughts. What we can’t always control while growing up is the environment that we are placed within. As we get older and more self-sufficient, mature and responsible, than we can begin to take more control of our environments. Remember, that not everyone who has the gene for diabetes, gets overweight. Not everyone who has the gene for heart disease, develops heart problems. Open your mind to the fact that you have more control over your ADHD than you may have previously been told. I’m sure some people might get defensive about that statement, but I’m here to help you through that. COMMENT BELOW AND TELL ME HOW YOU FEEL.

If you’d like to read more about the evolving world of ADHD and genetics, here are 2 more.

  1. Faraone SV, Perlis RH, Doyle AE, et al. Molecular genetics of attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder. Biol Psychiatry 2005; 57: 1313-1323.
  2. Sprich S, Biederman J, Crawford MH, et al. Adoptive and biological families of children and adolescents with ADHD. J Am Acad Child Adolesc Psychiatry 2000; 39: 1432-1437.
  3. Burt SA. Rethinking environmental contributions to child and adolescent psychopathology: a meta-analysis of shared environmental influences. Psychol Bull 2009; 135: 608-637.


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Important Questions to Answer About ADHD

The ADHD Society blog bannerThe time is past when we need to take control of the sinking ship of how the majority of medicine and society treats people ADD/ADHD. Almost everyone that I’ve communicated with who has ADD/ADHD; or someone in their life – doesn’t want to be medicated. Prescribing of ADHD medications has consistently risen enormously in the last 5 -10 years. Homeschooling has become a boom industry in that same time. There is obviously an underground movement growing in momentum that is going to crest soon. Parents, adults, kids, and insightful educators are realizing that the ADD brain is an incredibly powerful asset. There are negative aspects to the traits of being impulsive, distractible, and hyperactive. The yin and yang of the situation is that those same negative traits have positive creativity, curiosity and enormous energy as their counterparts. Here are the questions that need to be addressed:adhd-insta6

1. Has ADHD has been labeled a disorder syndrome, problem creator in society?

Yes. There are several reasons for this, aside from any conspiracy theories, the simple fact that ADHD doesn’t think linearly, but more tangentially – abstract. The ADD brain can perform like a 3D floating Rubik’s cube. Most teachers, adults, and parents haven’t received training in how to cope and handle that type of thinking. This certainly makes the square peg not fit the round hole.

Imagine a future where there are training seminars and conferences to edify and augment the inherent creativity, curiosity, and energy that comes with the ADD Brain. A strength based approach to helping handle the negative aspects and improving the positive traits.adhd-insta3

2. Can people with ADHD leave a wake of destruction & exasperated people around them?

Yes. Ask anyone who is in the vicinity of ADHD. More stories abound than you could ever count regarding this question. The homework battles, ruined relationships, the drugs and alcohol, the countless forgetting experiences, unacceptable behavior, and distracted consciousness. It’s hard to keep up with a brain that moves as quickly as the ADD brain.

In the same breath we can talk about the amazing things that have come from being involved with someone with ADHD. The genius moments, the inspirational work, the passionate determination, the incredible solutions to seemingly impossible problems. During our live presentations, when I bring this statement to the audience, I get hands up and people love talking about these experiences. They know that there is an inherent awesomeness that comes with having ADHD.adhd-insta7

3. How many people have been labeled as problems, nuisance, disturbed, special needs?

Dr. Hallowell, New York Times best-selling author of 18 ADHD books told me personally, “Eric what people don’t see is that getting a diagnosis of ADHD is the best thing that could happen to them, for it is the one that has the highest rate of improvement in all the psychological textbooks – but they’ve been told it’s a disorder, so they see it negatively.” This questions raises a similar but deeper discussion than the other 2 questions because it drives to the heart of the issue where people have been programmed to see ADHD as a ‘bad’ thing; so they treat is as such. It is one of the most disheartening aspects of my job. I have a dent in my forehead from banging it into a wall about this subject.1456693_10152083587505977_1803238107_n

4. How many people have been abused & mistreated because they have the traits of ADHD (misunderstood)?

Bringing this question to light has caused stunned looks on many peoples’ faces. It’s almost as if they are a deer in the headlights. Many people don’t realize that ADHD is a clinical diagnosis, not a behavioral diagnosis. Can you imagine a child with autism being punished/beaten/scolded or told he was ‘stupid’, ‘bad’, ‘retarded’ for acting inappropriately in a social situation?

The time has come for society to realize exactly what we’re dealing with regarding the ADHD brain. It’s been often said that ‘what you focus on the most becomes the most powerful force’. The ADHD Society is focused on the entire person with ADHD from a strength based approach.Register now button

Constantly evolving The ADHD Society programs to include new research findings, alternative care models, and a genuine loving compassion for the client, that is unmatched by anyone I’ve heard of besides Dr. Hallowell himself. In 2012, in Baltimore, MD, I told him directly, in a face to face conversation; that I would be the champion for his cause. He smiled shaking his head, “Thank you, we need more people like you.” As he wrote in Driven to Distraction – “ADHD is a gift, and it can be unwrapped given the proper approach and understanding.” When I read that in 1994, I finally knew why my life had been such an incredible mystery to so many people. Back then though, I had no idea I would be the one leading the charge to bring freedom to an entire group of brilliant misunderstood section of society.


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Parenting Goals and Tips for ADHD

The ADHD Society blog bannerLet’s be clear that bad parenting doesn’t cause ADHD, but it does certainly make it worse. Working with hundreds of families, I’ve observed particular things that improve ADHD in a client simply with changes in parenting. As mature adults, it is our responsibility to rise above any negative default behaviors that we may have observed from our own parents growing up. Be honest with yourself and realize that you weren’t able to choose your parents, but you can choose your own behaviors now. I’ve listed 7 areas below that parents I work with all strive to improve.

  1. Limit destructive behavior8things

It is well know that people with ADD/ADHD can act different than other ‘normal’ kids. Decide ahead of time which behaviors are acceptable and which are not. If a behavior is not causing physical harm, but it seems peculiar or odd, let it go. Trying to dampen the creative imagination or behavior can have drastic consequences later in life. Discuss with them that you understand what they want to do, but set a time when that behavior may be more appropriate. In this way, you’re not stopping it dead in their tracks, but giving them a place and time that they can fully explore and behave as they want to express themselves. When it comes to managing aggression, be sure that the discipline matches the crime. This particular subject has its strength in the consistency of the parents; their own personal confidence and love.


  1. Reduce stress on your relationshipadhd-father-son1

When it comes to the word ‘stress’, we need to remember that stress is a perspective. It can be caused by many things, but predominantly there are several things that can be done to make it less of a problem. Expectations, schedules, society, personal feelings are all included. When you define the rules, allow some flexibility – some leeway. Many times, by simply allowing a slightly wider berth the situation lowers in stressfulness. Check your schedules and make sure that they aren’t too busy and placing excessive strain on the person with ADHD. Being honest with yourself and determining if the stress is coming from school, community, or other family members, then be aware of that. Realize that ADD/ADHD is a clinical neurological diagnosis; not just a behavior thing. Imagine for a moment that someone with autism is behaving unacceptably – how are you going to handle yourself?

  1. Connect with Emotionsadhd-son-father-argue

It becomes very helpful to take breaks. Be aware that you can become overwhelmed or frustrated. Encourage out-loud thinking; the ADD Brain thinks really fast and sometimes there is a need to tell people and talk about it a lot. Help the thoughts and reasoning process; also having them write things down in a journal is very helpful. ADHD folks can be very impulsive with emotions, so it’s important to promote wait time or a ‘pause’ button. Working on extending that gap between stimulus and response. The work we do with neurofeedback and the Myndplay company has proven invaluable to improving the emotional intelligence of clients.

  1. Take responsibilityJust Do It Tomorrow - Symbol Of Lazy People

It’s been established that by creating structure help. Building routines, good habits and rituals creates a successful environment. Be sure that people who are willing to perform a task will take more responsibility for the outcome than if they are forced to perform said task. Show the person with ADD/ADHD how to break tasks into manageable pieces. We all can use calendars, smartphone apps, colors, homework & chores charts. Strive to simplify and organize your child’s life; talk with them and find out how they work best. Taking responsibility instead of placing blame can begin on the smallest level. People with ADHD typically aren’t the most self-aware. Gently helping them to see where their actions caused something to happen is very important. Begin with positive things that they caused. Soon they will begin to connect the dots.


  1. Overcome self-doubtadhd for teachers

Growing up with ADD/ADHD brings with it fear, shame, and guilt from messing up, not following through, forgetting, blanking out, losing things, etc. It is imperative that as adult role models that we believe in your child. Look for them to do the right thing. When they aren’t performing or behaving correctly, guide them into a behavior that can be praised and recognized for. This goes for all parents, coaches, daycare providers, grandparents; anyone involved in the person’s life.


  1. Awareness of Patternsadhd structure

The human body loves rhythm. The way we walk, breathe, heart beats, sleep patterns, eating. What many people may not understand is that the ADD brain has special times during the day when it’s in “Turbo Mode”. These are the most important times of the day to harness this power and handle important tasks. Be aware of the levels of inattention, recklessness, or hyperactivity. When the brain moves the body into “Turbo”, the it’s time to be outside, or exercising, running around, using the body as many healthy ways as possible during that time. (If the teacher is punishing behavior by taking away recess, they are shooting themselves in the foot.) Patterns also occur with the triggers that can cause the negative aspects of ADHD to rear their ugly head. It’s important to help the person with ADHD see this for themselves, just like we discussed above.


  1. Empower THEMadhd for teachers

Realize that the ADD brain has the ability to do things that are amazing and inspirational. Limiting distractions helps the majority of people with ADHD. It’s mandatory to decrease screen time, encourage creativity, and connection to other human beings. There are many groups and communities forming daily that cater to the super creative, imaginative, fast-thinkers. Remember that this brain can handle putting concepts together better than a ‘normal’ brain. Placing the person in an environment where they will be successful with that type of brain will thrive can be monumental. Encourage exercise. Decide on the best times for concentrating on brain tasks, then also body tasks. Integrative ways of improving body awareness are very important to the success of our ADHD program.

This has been a fairly exhaustive discussion on helping parents handle ADD/ADHD better. Be sure to comment below and share this with other parents. There are many people out there who can use this information to create a better life.

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Changing the Future of ADHD Treatment

Whether you want to face it or not, you must admit that the increased use of medication in America for ADHD symptoms has become outrageous. I stand for the drug freedom ADHD lifestyle. Of course that brings with it untold amounts of support for AND against the position of The ADHD Society. The vision we see of the future of ADHD is one I which people with the traits of ADD/ADHD are revered, encouraged, and supported for their powerful brains.adhd-girls-add

For this to happen, there are several major advancements that need to occur:

  1. Educational systems that strengthen and support ADHD-type thinkers and doers.

This does not limit to the public schools, it is open to any educational system which exists or will be created. We’ve seen a huge boom in home schooling and private school attendance. This may be due in part to the inability of teachers to ‘handle’ students with ADHD. The ADHD Society wants educational systems to be elevated to the level of edifying the brain of ADHD. This is a far cry from having a school that will ‘agree to take the kid with ADHD.’ This will involve new training, understanding, and maturity in educators to be able and willing to build the ability within the ADHD brain. We are amazing problem solvers and solution oriented thinkers when we are in a supportive environment.praise-a-child-wordle

  1. Less drugs being incorrectly prescribed or experimented on our brains.

It is well known that America takes a ridiculous amount of prescription medication for ADD/ADHD compared to the rest of the planet. In the last few years research has been completed in Europe that is showing promising results that are pointing to the fallacy of the chemical imbalance theory of ADHD. Although it’s possible that medication may be needed for a very small percentage of people with ADHD, there’s no way that millions of humans need to on so many different versions of ADHD prescriptions. Advancements in behavior modification, nutrition, neurofeedback, cognitive and vestibular exercises have created amazing drug free results.kid-brain

  1. People growing up with self-esteem instead of being branded a problem.

The stigma of ADHD being a disorder has all but destroyed many humans. Carrying fear, shame and guilt from being branded a problem, nuisance, or problem has suppressed many people with ADHD. Yes, we’re different, and society order is threatened by that. The ADHD brain thinks faster, more creatively, full of curiosity and energy. The mold that society would like for us to fit into cannot contain us; there will be a revolution that creates a new design in which our powerful brains can thrive.

  1. Change the drug abuse, and alcoholism, and addiction that is so prevalent with ADHD.

Studies are reporting that 50% of people with ADD/ADHD become alcoholics or addicts. That’s only what’s reported; meaning there are definitely more. Being different, thinking different, causing problems, and being told all the negative things that we hear growing up leads to self-medication. Any amount of change that occurs with this particular issue will help so many people on the levels of country, state, city, and within the homes and relationships of those with ADD/ADHD.

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